I am 100% guilty of Life Lesson #2 (and so is my hubby, even though he'll never admit it)!
2. You spent a SMALL FORTUNE on yourself.
"Even in this day and age, many people still don't level with their spouses about how much they paid for some coveted service or item, like a salon treatment or a fancy new grill. Indeed, it can be difficult to own up to, say, a $70 haircut at a chic salon when your husband shells out $22 at the barber. But keeping money secrets in a relationship creates bigger conflicts down the road. Sure, in this economy, sharing such information may lead to a discussion about cutting back, but your partner will also get a better understanding of what you value most - and those converstions will ultimately bring the two of you closer."
(from Real Simple, February 2011, p. 50)
Like I said, I am guilty of spending small fortunes on myself on the most inane things (like my new leather Cole Haan triple zip satchel purse **swoon), and usually I am too embarassed to tell my husband the true number, so I have taken to subscribing to his "1/2 it or double it" when he asks me how much I spent on something! But, I guess I can truly admit we are not quite "there" yet on full disclosure of our expenditures. I think things are changing though now that at least one of us is done University, and I imagine we will begin to share expenses and money more openly when we are both earning and contributing.
One day at a time!
2. You spent a SMALL FORTUNE on yourself.
"Even in this day and age, many people still don't level with their spouses about how much they paid for some coveted service or item, like a salon treatment or a fancy new grill. Indeed, it can be difficult to own up to, say, a $70 haircut at a chic salon when your husband shells out $22 at the barber. But keeping money secrets in a relationship creates bigger conflicts down the road. Sure, in this economy, sharing such information may lead to a discussion about cutting back, but your partner will also get a better understanding of what you value most - and those converstions will ultimately bring the two of you closer."
(from Real Simple, February 2011, p. 50)
Like I said, I am guilty of spending small fortunes on myself on the most inane things (like my new leather Cole Haan triple zip satchel purse **swoon), and usually I am too embarassed to tell my husband the true number, so I have taken to subscribing to his "1/2 it or double it" when he asks me how much I spent on something! But, I guess I can truly admit we are not quite "there" yet on full disclosure of our expenditures. I think things are changing though now that at least one of us is done University, and I imagine we will begin to share expenses and money more openly when we are both earning and contributing.
One day at a time!
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